After declining Columbia’s psychology MA program, I reflected on the academic advice that helped me make peace with the decision. My supervisor reminded me to look beyond prestige and ask a harder question: what is the step after this step?

I got into Columbia’s psychology master’s program — and I declined their offer. For a long time, I thought an Ivy League acceptance would give me the validation, access, and security I had been chasing. But after admitted students day, hard conversations about funding, and a lot of reflection, I realized I had to choose the path that actually aligned with the psychologist I want to become.

Applying to doctoral programs in psychology is expensive, emotional, and deeply humbling. After applying to 22 programs, receiving 2 interviews, and earning 1 offer, I learned lessons I wish someone had told me earlier. From applying broadly and asking for fee waivers to staying off Reddit and understanding how old grades can follow you, this post reflects on what I wish I knew before beginning the process.

I did not choose psychology because I had everything figured out. I chose it because I kept asking why: why people become who they are, how early experiences shape us, and what helps people heal. In this post, I share the story behind The Budding Psychologist, my journey as a first-generation student and researcher, and why I created this space for students navigating psychology, graduate school, and higher education.